Lies we tell ourselves

I propose a simple and true fact. Relationships and even friendships are all built upon lies and selfishness.

Example #1 - List any friend you have and think of all qualities they possess that makes them a good friend. Ok, then subtract the number of those things that involve the word "me" and "I". Odds are that takes out about half. Then look at the others. How many of those traits involve aspects that make YOU feel good. He's funny (he makes YOU laugh). She's a good listener (she listens to YOUR bullshit). He's loyal (he won't betray YOU). None of those actual mention a quality that pertains to that person alone.

Example #2 - Think of all the ex friends you have. How many of those have ended over things they did to you, or things they didn't do for you? He was unreliable (he wasn't there for YOU), she wasn't fun (they couldn't make YOU feel good)

Example #3 - How many things would you do for someone if they didn't do the same for you? I'd bail him out of jail (if he'd do the same for me). I'd float them money (they better help me when I'm broke)

When it comes down to it, at the core of humanity is a great selfishness. But even more amusing is the fact that we pretend we don't have it. We pretend that these relationships we forge are selfless, that we have attained some sort of moral high ground in them. In fact, we do it to make ourselves feel better. We do it to please ourselves and the only real test is if you and that over person are using each other for the same reasons. If by some stroke of luck you are equally on the same page of wrong, then a relationship builds.

Does the world and mankind need this bond of lechery? Sure. We'd destroy ourselves without a person to vent to, cry to, confess to. But I propose that we stop the bullshit, stop pretending like we care and just be real.

The world is every man for himself. Some are just better at the game than others.